Jerry Wright
Huron Perth L:akers
Coaching Staff

This sense of pride built up over the two weeks of camp as much as his body changed and he developed self-esteem as much as he developed muscles. It was a very positive experience for Axel but also for us parents. Thank you Brian and Jim for all of the encouragements, for the respect and love they all got. You were able to bring together a group of different ages and therefore different abilities and everyone learned and improved. Thank you for making Axel think of what he was doing but also why he was doing it, finding within himself the resources he will need in the years to come.

See you next summer for the camp but this time for 4 weeks ,(Axel has asked to stay longer), somehow I think we might meet up before that! Thank you also to your sons and daughter, incredible people who made Axel feel special and accepted and thank you to all the great kids that attended the camp with him.

Axelle

This year the topic of emotional damage really stirred up something inside. Something I have been trying to address since my mum’s death; something I have been fighting all my life. I have been quietly yelling at my mum for all the unfairness I endured as a child. I have yelled about the double standards, where my actions and my life were measured with a different stick than the rest of the world. I yelled at her for orchestrating my life to ensure “my success”. And I screamed at her for shoving her goals down my throat. I yelled at her regarding the hypocrisy of power, “Do what I say not what I do”. Every once in a while I yell at myself for not being able to stand up to her. How could I not be strong enough to say No and fight for what I knew was right for me? I have asked her during these screaming bouts if she realized what a paralyzed, lost, unsure, scared human being I am because of this tough love? This weekend was the first time sharing some of this beyond my closest friends.

I have been called spoiled. Spoiled is someone who gets everything they want. This was not my case. I was privileged to have some opportunities. But those opportunities came at a cost; my inner kid was never seen or heard. Whenever I expressed my inner desires/needs I was in trouble. My dreams and wishes were ignored.

I’m supposed to be grateful for all that I have received. The only sentiments I have are “I didn’t ask for any o f this. My mother wanted it.”

I’ve questioned why I busy myself? Why do I exhaust myself by going to bed late? Why am I constantly running? I have never been able to give those questions an answer. For the first time I truly understand why I do these things. It’s to never be quiet enough to hear and address that deeply rooted anger. Instead I have built such thick walls of protection.

At the conference, an insect finally woke me up to learn the lesson that I really don’t want to change. I say I do, but it is all lip service. I haven’t changed my old patterns and I don’t pay attention to the discussions that I have attended for over 5 years. I can’t sit still for a minute because I don’t want to be left alone with my thoughts. So what will make me choose to change?

What I found most useful this weekend was being able to talk about the not so nice side of my mum. I finally said some of the stuff on my heart.

This may seem haphazard because I am drifting in and out of anger of a life time and retelling a journey of a weekend. Hope you understand some of it and thanks for reading.

Elizabeth

Bonnie Beuerman

Over the years, I have learned internal psychology through the various levels I have taken with you, the Friday night groups, our many conversations and interaction, and by being aware of and attentive to the two psychologies practiced in everyday life.

I wasn’t quite sure what to expect from Level 6, but I definitely didn’t expect it to have such a profound affect on me as it did. During the weekend of the course, I identified and shared deeply rooted issues and thoughts which I have never expressed before – it felt so good to get that out in the open. However, I realize how I kept that all in because of my fear of being judged or seen a certain way, which leads me to one of the main things I took away from the weekend: how the images I have of myself and of others get in the way of my relationships and contribute to my unhappiness.

I recently read Time Magazine’s article on Person of the Year Mark Zuckerberg, creator of Facebook. The article covers various different aspects of Facebook and its creator, but one thing that resonated with me was how you only have one identity on Facebook. I started thinking about how in my own life I wanted the various circles of people in it to see me in certain ways: my colleagues to see me as professional, knowledgeable and capable; my friends to see me as fun and caring; and my family to see me as loving and successful. It was interesting how conflicted I became with Facebook because when people from the various groups wanted to add me as a friend on the social network, I started to realize that the images I was trying to uphold could all go up in smoke simply because a colleague could see a photo of me that a friend may have tagged me in, in which I was “acting in appropriately” and it did not demonstrate my “professionalism”. It demonstrated to me my fear of being judged and seen in a different light than the way I want to be seen.

I know it will take time to shed those images I have of myself, and of others, but as I do, it will open the door to real relationship and a happier self.

Although I am grateful to you, Brian, for your love and support, it is not because of you that I choose to live my life with internal psychology, but because I am much happier living it this way.

Many thanks and lots love to you for introducing me to internal psychology and for being a friend!

Sincerely,
Eddie

I had the opportunity to listen to Brian speak at my son’s hockey banquet and I was overwhelmed by such a powerful and motivating presentation, so much that I asked Brian to be our opening speaker at our 22nd annual customer appreciation seminar that entertains around 300 guests. I am a sales representative for a company that distributes supplies to golf course turf managers and usually our topics are turfgrass oriented to update customers on research and new developments in the industry. I have to admit, I was a little nervous on how our guests would portray Brian’s sixty minute talk on self evaluation, but from the minute he started until the minute we had to literally end his session, Brian had all 300 people engaged and had them stepping back and evaluating themselves from the past and hopefully progressing their relationships for the future. To be able to hear a pin drop in a room with 300 people says how powerful Brian’s message was. We seriously had to end Brian’s session to move onto our next speakers, but our guests could have listened to Brian all day. The comments we heard for the rest of the day from our guests were so positive and thankful for having such a powerful speaker who focused on everyday behaviours and situations. His talk was received better than any research or technically based talk we have ever presented for our guests and it was based on what is most important in life, which a lot of the time we take for granted. Whether you are a small or large company, having Brian work with you will change how your company will do business, and most importantly change how they deal with every relationship in their lives which can lead to endless potential. Our experience with Brian was so positive, he may be our first repeat speaker at our annual customer appreciation day, says a lot about Brian’s theories when our guests were expecting a day full of technical information of our industry. Thanks again Brian.

Sincerely,
Mark Durand
Sales Representative
Ontario Seed Company

Kent McPherson
Gatineau Olympiques

Thanks very much for everything that you did on Saturday. I think that the majority of the team has bought into the methods you were discussing. We played in Listowel on Sunday afternoon and we won! I was able to stand near our bench and I noticed a considerable difference in the attitude of many of our players. I hope we can carry this on. And if we run into some difficult times again, I know that we will be much better prepared to handle it thanks to you.

Thanks again,

Jason Lott
Director of Hockey Operations
Stratford Cullitons Hockey Club
519-272-6515

Another huge thanks to you!!!!
Ben