CoachBri’s Blog

We extend ourselves in so many ways. We try to find security in a partner, a spouse or by having children. Some extend themselves by gathering money or property. Many people extend themselves through ideas. But has anyone ever found a safe place in this life? For the rich and the poor, life comes and rocks us to our foundations and exposes our insecurity, which we then run from. All the beliefs, ideas, money, houses we own, or however powerful we may be, life comes and shatters it all. When we feel even the slightest crack in our security we become aggressive and violent.

Life is forever trying to awaken us to something else. We just get things going and life again pulls the rug from underneath us and we are drawn back to the nagging insecurity of our convictions that crumble before our eyes. In all this mess, is there a different way to live? We are told that to be powerful is to achieve something in life. We are told to be movers and shakers, and that to be aggressive and accomplished is a purposeful life.

To be accomplished and have lots without the ability to share it is worthless. Nothing is worth having if it can’t be shared. To accomplish anything without compassion is to deteriorate as a human being.

The greatest darkness in the human condition is found in the security of ideas. This is what separates people. It gives them different perceived worlds and each person in their own perceived world believes that their way of seeing is the right way. In any relationship, when ideas become the glue that binds, ideas will also be the axe that divides.

Relationship means to be sensitive, which means being intimate with the life process moving through the other and acting as a mirror for that person to see themselves and gain some understanding of movements going on in themselves. It is the consideration of their feelings and thoughts that lead to inaction or action about reaching there potential as a human being.

There is no security in life, only movement and the passion for what is next. To live fully is to bathe in the wisdom of insecurity, only here are we free. That freedom is always seeing where we are caught and remaining there to learn all that is needed to be released. Understanding is liberation and each person must liberate themselves. Most people have no idea that they are caught and are not interested in finding out.

Are you?

Coachbri

The problem facing humanity is that we refuse to be aware of the fact that emotionally we are in our infancy and intellectually we are toddlers. Therefore, we can’t embrace our true spirituality. We see ourselves as having God-like qualities and psychic gifts, which reveals our adolescence. Old time religions, or the new cults of Tolle, The Secret, Osho, and many others, erect in us hope. This hope is something we are told to be thankful for. Hope is needed when someone has cancer and you want them to recover. But hope springs eternal, which prevents us from radical change or transformation. We have hoped for the alcoholic to stop drinking or the addict to stop using.

We have waited thousands of centuries for human beings to finish with war and have hoped that the poor will be fed and will know the delight of clean clothes and a good meal. What most human beings want is to read someone else’s book and get their answers so they can put meaning to their pitiful, meaningless lives. We don’t want to face the fact that in one moment we can be completely irrational and in the next moment be kind. We truly don’t want to do our own work, to find resolve and solve our own lives as they unfold, with our own evaluation. Whatever the popular pop-spiritual movement is that Oprah peddles, it only adds to the central confusion of creating an authority to bring about change. Change on the personal level is never a matter of looking through the eyes of knowledge of another. It comes about by revelation and insight that is in no way the product of thought or thinking. It is not the expression of one’s talents or convictions, or self-centered beliefs. Real change is without intention. It is not heading in one direction and then choosing another. Change comes because one perceives the fact of one’s own disorder without any resistance. One breaks the pattern of looking at knowledge as a factor of change by seeing that knowledge is the factor of conformity and the historical pattern of society based in our own deception. Real change is discovery that flows out of innocence toward innocence itself.

No one can change anyone else and when one sets aside the need for change and brings one’s attention to discover what is really going on, that discovery is the factor of change, which is liberation from knowledge. We cannot examine our own heart by using the tools of the brain, or someone else’s knowledge. Education is to draw out that which is within and limits us from the central fact of human existence. We are not who we as defined by knowledge. We have no country or religion, or political association; they are all forces of disorder creating the greatest organized disorder, war.

Peace on earth is our ability to be in relationship with each other by emptying the content that we so greedily cling too. Peace is to create a life out of nothingness. Peace is to be and live into your talent and reach your human potential, which, my good friends, is the flowering of LOVE AND COMPASSION in whatever you do.

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No matter how much human beings mess things up in their lives, there is always a chance for change. The feelings surrounding our failure is our internal psychology speaking to us that we need to change things. We can always make a better choice. One of the problems with medication is that choice and feeling that drives us to want to make change is inhibited. Medication is needed to keep a person alive until counseling can begin. But the success of counseling is the counselor’s ability to get close to the person who is having difficulty getting along with the people in their life the way they want to. In schools, at home, or at the office, problems arise because people have difficulty getting along and that is the source of the trouble.

Behind all human trouble is the lack of relationship and relationship is the process of recovery. People who can find a way to stay in relation with others and the situation they are in have very little conflict in their life.

Coach bri