I am spending a lot of time with people right now as I am back in school and am there a lot it seems. This week, I began to notice something that is always there but really got highlighted.
Strangely enough it all started on a break from class when someone was talking about how a famous person's mother, brother and nephew recently got murdered. I hadn't heard this so my heart was so sad for this person as I immediately thought of my family and can't for the life of me imagine such a happening. When all these sad thoughts were going on in my head, this other girl in the conversation responded that, “I guess she (being the person whose family just got murdered) is going to get fat again.”
I was floored. It isn't like I know the person that this horrible thing happened to but that it could happen to anyone saddens me and my thoughts immediately go to hoping (which I know is external but I go there…) that she is able to find peace in all of this.
The moral of this story is….I think women are funny. Being on so many teams with so many girls, I really think women can be so powerful and wonderful, loving, strong, united…..but then on the flip side so caddy and hurtful and jealous.
Something that I look for in a girlfriend or a friend i guess (as my husband is this way so boys are included) is that they can be happy for your happiness. When things are going amazing for you, they aren't upset that things might not be going as well for them or cautioning you to not be so happy….they are there to celebrate with you, give you a hug. I think I like these people because that is the way I am so I guess I like that in return? I just can't imagine not being happy for someone when things are going well for them…when my friends and family are doing well, happy, succeeding – there isn't a better feeling….I think I learn a lot of that from my family as they are so supportive and loving. I guess if I wasn't around that and didn't know how great it felt to be loved and truely supported I wouldn't be the same? I am not sure….
This post seems to be going all over the place….I guess what I am trying to say was that my classmate's comment really rubbed me the wrong way because I perceived it as something like this
” good, now this successful, beautiful woman wont be so good anymore. Now something bad has happened to her and that is good because she won't be as powerful, admired and successful anymore…she is even going to gain weight” I perceived such an undertone of jealousy that I wanted to just be inside this girls head to see how she goes about her daily life because I don't know why someone would want to kick someone, let alone kick someone when they are down. I perceive that as so mean and unhuman almost.
I can only imagine how powerful woman (and the energy in teh world)would be if we let our egos go. If we supported those doing well and said good for you for succeeding, good for you for realizing your dreams, instead of almost resenting there success. I have seen it on so many teams….those that do the best, are those that drop the egos and can truly work together be be better as a whole. I think the world would be a better place if we pushed our egos aside and celebrated with others. Sometimes I just find that mediocracy attacks excellence too much and I find it disappointing.
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