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Training for Social Workers and Caregivers

Unhappy people evaluate others, happy people self-evaluate.

Human potential plus training workshops are designed to draw out the deep wisdom of the participants within the group.

Through this integrated learning style the participants within the workshop will improve on their level of effectiveness in the coaching and counseling process. All participants will be exposed to the internal psychology model and process of behaviour that will help them integrate past learned experiences with new knowledge in a variety of milieus.

This training unfolds the necessary requirements in a safe, supportive and challenging way that enables people to self-reflect, self-evaluate, communicate and share their insights with the group in a highly interactive experience. Drawing on the wisdom of the group and the process of feedback, participants learn new, effective ways to deal with difficult situations with clients, coworkers, and significant others. This is a life training striving to help people be more effective in satisfying their basic needs and helping others to satisfy theirs, leading towards a greater sense of fulfillment and happiness.

This two-day training addresses the following areas:

1. A new look at human behaviour

2. Connecting and disconnecting

3. The two psychologies of helping

4. Building environments for success

5. Caring through self-evaluation

6. The internal process of change

7. At the heart of addiction

Schedule

Day 1

8:30  to 9:00      Welcome

9:00 to 10:30     How We Perceive

1030 to 10:45   Break

10:45  to 12:00  Invitation Verses Disconnection

12:00 to 1:00 Lunch

1:00 to 2:30   Building Environments for Success

2:30 to 2:45  Break

2:45  to 4:00 Working the Process

Day 2

8:30  to 9:00      Welcome

9:00 to 10:30      Recap

10:30.to 10:45   Break

10:45  to 12:00   Role Play

12:00 to 1:00 Lunch

1:00 to 2:30    Role Play

2:30  to 2:45  Break

2:45 to 4:00   Debrief

Treat relationships as if they were a fine piece of china:  once it gets broken it is very hard to repair!

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To be happy and a healthy human being means to be connected to yourself. One comes to that wholeness in  life when one perceives that relationship is change. Relationship means  to see how you are related to things and people in your life. That relationship will create your misery or your happiness. When you get along with people who you want to, you suffer very little, have few aches and pains, and feel inspired in your daily living. When you are lost and give material things top billing and the people in your life insignificant meaning, you will suffer.

This sadly is an internal truth we can not shake!  Change comes and zaps your energy. We then are thrown to distraction from that plain and simple truth. Change is then pain, rather than an exercise in discovery and inspiration .

Before we have the power to affect the universe, we must have the compassion to serve Her.  Life on earth is a template  for the universe.

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“The more need satisfying your relationship are the more happy and successful you feel.”

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What is HPP Training with coachbri

Hpp training is learning the art of relationship in every aspect of your life. This training is so powerful it breath’s new life into internal wisdom and pulls out the external habits the poison all that we do with the people in our life.  Removing  the external psychology at the root of human conditioning and replaces it with internal psychology gives people the tools they need to create environments for people to grow and thrive.  Be it business, marriage, raising children or coaching, our ability to connect with people and create satisfying relationship is the key to meaning  successful and purposeful life.  Participates will learn the driving forces behind all behavior and a way to coach themselves and others towards better internal choices. Level 1 & 2 teaches the 5 conditions and habits    that need to removed from our interactions and language with people.  Then they are introduced to the art of self-evaluation and a coaching process that directly improves the quality of all our relationships.

When : February 25, 26, 27

Start Time:   25, 26   9am to 4pm         Feb 27  9am to 1pm

Where:  73681  SHANGRI La Road  Bluewater Ontario Canada N0M 2T0

Cost $600.00 per person  INCLUDES FOOD/ACCOMMODATION

iNSTRUCTOR BRIAN O’REILLY

TO REGISTER     email    angie@humanpotentialplus.com or call 647-401-7929 in US call 814-240-8575

We extend ourselves in so many ways. We try to find security in a partner, a spouse or by having children. Some extend themselves by gathering money or property. Many people extend themselves through ideas. But has anyone ever found a safe place in this life? For the rich and the poor, life comes and rocks us to our foundations and exposes our insecurity, which we then run from. All the beliefs, ideas, money, houses we own, or however powerful we may be, life comes and shatters it all. When we feel even the slightest crack in our security we become aggressive and violent.

Life is forever trying to awaken us to something else. We just get things going and life again pulls the rug from underneath us and we are drawn back to the nagging insecurity of our convictions that crumble before our eyes. In all this mess, is there a different way to live? We are told that to be powerful is to achieve something in life. We are told to be movers and shakers, and that to be aggressive and accomplished is a purposeful life.

To be accomplished and have lots without the ability to share it is worthless. Nothing is worth having if it can’t be shared. To accomplish anything without compassion is to deteriorate as a human being.

The greatest darkness in the human condition is found in the security of ideas. This is what separates people. It gives them different perceived worlds and each person in their own perceived world believes that their way of seeing is the right way. In any relationship, when ideas become the glue that binds, ideas will also be the axe that divides.

Relationship means to be sensitive, which means being intimate with the life process moving through the other and acting as a mirror for that person to see themselves and gain some understanding of movements going on in themselves. It is the consideration of their feelings and thoughts that lead to inaction or action about reaching there potential as a human being.

There is no security in life, only movement and the passion for what is next. To live fully is to bathe in the wisdom of insecurity, only here are we free. That freedom is always seeing where we are caught and remaining there to learn all that is needed to be released. Understanding is liberation and each person must liberate themselves. Most people have no idea that they are caught and are not interested in finding out.

Are you?

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It was dark and you could not see the mountains, yet you could feel their presence. Every few minutes the flash of lightning would light up the sky and there they were, in all of there majesty, strong, full and timeless.

It is amazing how we think time is a factor of change. In everything man does he uses time to measure it and control it but ceases to realize the self he is, is also a product of time. It takes time to do anything technological or learn any skill but to love takes no time at all, for those who are willing to self evaluate.

Self evaluation is not the process of analyzing oneself by looking at one layer and then moving to the next layer. That is a movement of time and takes time. What takes time is part of time and it will never lead one to find love or anything that is beyond thinking and the material process.

Self evaluation is not copying what someone has done or faking it till you make it. Self evaluation begins with the intention of not wanting to fool oneself or deceive oneself or anyone else. It is the direct perception without judgment or condemnation of the ineffectiveness and danger of what one is doing.  Something can lead to greater effectiveness and not be dangerous. Anything that is dangerous destroys relationship in the process of carrying it out.

We will progress forward as technology has progressed because human beings are willing to shift perception and apply new ways to evaluate. However, inwardly, psychologically, we are unwilling to shift theory and see that the present generation is the past generation, and just as violent and aggressive. War and conflict is still the behavioural choice that darkens our future. We refuse to face the fact that the past is the present and our future will be the same as the past unless we are willing to change in the present.

The rain came with wind and large pounding droplets. The smell of rain on hot asphalt and cedar was thick and potent. Summer in all its splendor had arrived in the mountains. The loud and intense cry of a large cat ripped through the heavy moist air. One sat in the quietness as the sound returned. In the distance one would hear the laughter of people having a good time. Their language was friendly yet abrupt, as only German can be. Across the meadow one could hear the rush of the fast moving river. Thought seemed so distant and silly that the brain seemed to be cleansing itself from the residue of the day.

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To commit to something and see it through is a good and noble thing. The degree to which you are able to commit to your own growth is the degree to which you are able to commit to a relationship. So much of relationship today is based on mutual using of each other. Whether it be for growing one’s economic empire, for children to pass on the family name, sexual comfort or just for covering up one’s loneliness, it is all the same movement. Commitment has nothing to do with goals and self-seeking achievement. It is not taking advantage of another to exploit or to humiliate in order to control. Commitment isn’t in one area and then relaxed in another, based on one’s preferences or talent. To commit means to give the wholeness of one’s energy to the wholeness of life. It is to use whatever one does as a process of one’s own transformation from dependence to interdependence.

One hopes life offers one a break or resting place to catch one’s breath from the sorrow and turmoil of living. We can’t see that our sorrow and turmoil is caused by the lack of commitment to life and not wanting to change but to be left alone and remain indifferent to our own transformation. We would rather be successful and envied rather than be simple and loving. We have two directions in life: one is to follow the path of another and the other is to make our own path. To follow in someone’s path is to live a life of comparison and imitation, which is the denial of freedom.

Commitment is at the beginning and all the way through to the end. It means awareness of what one is doing, one’s thoughts, actions and intent. It is the agonizing look into the self-centered position one takes among all the turmoil and struggle. The journey is what makes us grow, the destination is only the point we come to when we think it is over and we have arrived.

To arrive spiritually or attain one’s goal is to feel as an imposter in one’s own life. It is the egocentric belief that gives accomplishments a value that is greater than the journey itself, thereby disguising one’s own insufficiency or insecurity behind the goal.

A happy life demands a commitment to educate the mind to something that thought can never attain, which is the wholeness of wisdom. Wisdom is putting your self in a vulnerable position without trying to be vulnerable. It is a movement of compassion that acts for the common good regardless of public opinion or ritual. Wisdom is found only in letting go and stepping into the unknown not as choice but as a real journeying into.

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When sex becomes the main thing

The sun felt warm on my back as I walked. The air was cool and high in the trees the crows were making a lot of noise. A large blue jay would listen to their noise, fly out to the top, give them a scowling look and then fly back to its perch, deep in the center of the large tree. The crows were quiet for a time, then they would begin again and the blue jay would again repeat his demands. After a few times, the crows seemed to give in to the blue jay and flew off. The blue jay returned to its perch again then I seemed to be the victim of his scowling.

We humans make demands from others because of lack of relationship. Sex becomes a demand from another out of our mundane, uncreative lives. When we are in the depth of our misery, sex with our self or from another becomes all important and poisons the environment by seeking release or outcome from a situation. Lurking in the activity of sex is our own insufficiency and orgasm or sex activity offers us a distraction. Sex for most of us is the only creative thing we have left in life and the fulfillment or orgasm takes our minds off all our daily problems. The way we are conditioned and our so called education is our identity and in it we are shallow human beings and pleasure becomes all important.

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There were about ten or eleven of them in a large gymnasium, pushing each other around on these little carts. One or two of them would get behind the other and push. Every time the driver would turn, three would go tumbling over the other and loud shrieking laughter would echo throughout the gym. To look and feel this gem of activity brought deep tears to my eyes and a large smile on my face. These children didn’t see color, race, sex or disability. They were enraptured in enjoyment.  One very little boy on the cart stopped all of a sudden and with the greatest attention became aware that the laughter had an echo and he gave out a loud yell. Soon all the others caught on and soon they were all yelling and listening. Then each gave the other a turn and the others listened and laughed.  The first boy on the cart became bored with it and again was off on his cart, soon being chased in tow by the others.

Innocent is how we all start out. Regardless of how bad our lives as children were, innocence finds a way to play and laugh. Even in the poorest conditions children will find a way to play, and find happiness. This is our natural state and we lose touch with it because the outside world moves in and we are brainwashed to believe the human experience is not enough, that we are incomplete in ourselves, and creation has left something out of the package.  Children who are genuinely happy don’t need anything external to be happy – they are too busy playing in the space of happiness.

Because we are pressured to become something, we grow up with the feeling we are not enough or something is wrong with us. The only option left is to conform to the wishes of our parents who, by the way, are already terribly unhappy because of the impositions of their parental and cultural conditioning.  They feel unhappy, and feel this huge void within themselves. Therefore they fill it with their parents conditioning then modify it a little and make it their own.

How do you know this is true? Because today we are a society of addicts we have to have a drink, smoke, sex, gamble, or become workaholics, sport-aholics, shopaholics, etc. People don’t see that the heart of addiction is to cover up the feel of the void within us. This void is created by our drug of choice. We all want to be happy, as we were as children, which is our natural state. But we use various addictions to cover up the fact we feel deprived.

Linked to the feeling of depravity is the feeling of inadequacy. This feeling is so deep in human beings and it is our greatest fear, the fear of being a nothing.  You smoke, drink, over sex, gamble, overeat, overwork, because you think doing these things will make you feel better. Well it does for that feeling of being deprived – a smoke, eating, or drinking something takes that feeling away. However, when the chemical has left the system, one must use again. Using is the closest thing to being in a natural of happiness. However, it is drug dependent and there is an illusion of happiness.  People who are not chemically addicted don’t walk around feeling deprived.   They don’t feel this huge void that addicts feel almost all the time.  As soon as the drug is out of their system, this feeling of void comes up.  So really the drug creates the void.

Religion, politics, and beliefs of any kind also cover up the deeper void created by our brainwashing.  The brainwashing that we are born inadequate is rooted in the fact that we try to fill a hole in ourselves with the product of thought and all the things that thinking has created. The universe was not created by our thinking process. Nor is love or nature created by thinking.  They are all realities independent of thinking. In order for us to develop and be whole human beings and reach our potential, we must have contact with a reality that is beyond thought. Then the next thing thought does is try to build a bridge to that other reality, which it can never do. Thus all human beings, when they are lonely, feel this deep sense of a void or insufficiency in themselves.

Our education creates children of the void.  Education in our culture is about stuffing in the things of thought, and the word education actually means to draw out. It is in the drawing out the illusions of self that there is really play and laughter, which is our natural state. To be innocent is to be free of all images about oneness and the other. In that innocence there is really joy. Watching these children was a deep blessing, and at the same time I wept for all those children who have to face the misery of this rotten society with its preoccupation with money and all its addictions.

Coach Bri