Viagra and the Male Erection
He was a middle aged man in good shape. He had a very friendly demeanour and appeared to have lot on confidence in himself and his abilities. He wore a suit and tie and appeared to have lots on money. He and his wife of twenty-three years had built a business together and now thing were falling apart. He had seen his doctor and two others regarding his inability to maintain an erection. Two of the doctors gave him information on the physiology of the male erection and a prescription for some medication. The other said that he wasn’t sure but felt it might be psychological but he was not qualified in that area and suggested he see a colleague, a psychiatrist. He had an appointment and went and felt that what the psychiatrist talked to him about was basically nonsense. He had heard about me from the radio and he thought he would give me a chance. He was deeply bothered by his problem and felt that he was letting his wife down.
Sir, may I ask you a question? You built your business with your wife and you did it together, right sir? You felt needed, did you not?
Yes of course. We discussed it all together. I would work the back end and she worked the front. We were a good team!
And now sir?
Well she wants to move on and sell the business and do something else!
So where does that leave you sir?
Well nowhere, and that is what I don’t understand. She has always been an inclusive person.
Since when?
I guess this has come to the surface in about the last eight months to a year.
What has happened since then?
The relationship between her and my son is very strained.
What is strained?
Let’s say they don’t see eye to eye! He rarely comes home on the weekend because all they do is fight!
And when this is all going on what are you doing?
I support my wife. I feel he gets out of hand too and is just rude!
Rude? How?
He just is disrespectful and doesn’t appreciate anything we do for him.
So how do you treat him in that situation?
Well we just don’t do anything for him!
So you just back off!
Yes totally!
What is totally?
Well, we don’t drive him anywhere or pick him up. We let him fend for himself. In the mornings we don’t talk because it always ends up in a huge fight and his mood effects everyone. I’m not going to take that from anyone.
So what do you want from your son?
I want him to be closer to us and treat us well.
So how is pulling away helping?
I’m not going to be anyone’s doormat! Nor am I going to ask my wife to be!
Okay so how important is your relation with your son?
It’s very important!
How important is your wife’s relationship to your son?
I think it’s the most important thing in the world!
More important than you?
No doubt about that!
So if she is unhappy with your son and feels a lack of meaning and purpose in her life, what is the chance she wants out of the business?
Is it possible she is not aware of that?
You know her better than I do. What do you think?
It is very possible! So you think that this not getting an erection has something to do with my wife and my son?
Well, indirectly perhaps. You see, when human beings aren’t satisfied with our present relationships, we say and do all kinds of things that sometimes disconnects us even more but we don’t realize it.
How does this fit in to me not getting it up?!
Are you pissed with your wife!
Damn right I am!!!
For what?
For kicking me out of her life! That’s what! She’s a fucking bitch for doing this to me.
Doing what to you?
Marriage is a partnership and she’s angry at our son and taking it out on me!
She’s hurt and choosing to disconnect from you.
Why can’t I get it up?
Is it possible you’re angry with her?
Yes.
What happens if you’re hurt, can you have sex with a person who is hurting you?
No, I can’t.
So how do you get back at her?
I’m not not getting it up on purpose!
I don’t think you are either! But if you’re hurt and feel she doesn’t need you it’s going to be difficult to feel sexual.
I think you’re right!
No sir, you see the truth of what is being said. A pill won’t hurt. Most men need these pills to cover up their hurt and pain.
So I’m not the only one?
You know you’re not sir! These erection drugs are harming our natural intelligence sir! And we will pay for the harm they will do!
Yes I know. If you read the disclaimer on it you wonder why anyone would ever take them.
That is easy sir! Living in the darkness, pleasure and the avoidance of pain is going to rule. This state you are in is giving you a chance to wake up sir! The choice is yours!
So what do I do?
Sir, tell the truth of your hurt, and just listen to her sir and listen to your son! It sounds like he is in deep trouble and can’t see it.
This has been very enlightening. Thank you
Yes sir, for the both of us! Thank you!
Coach bri