Ask a Man How He Feels
Ask a man what he thinks and you give him honor and friendship. Ask him what he feels and he looks at you like you have two heads. I have watched this subtle meanness for some time now. It is sad and so deeply conditioned and causes so much unneeded suffering. It is common and practiced by uneducated as well as the so called educated. Most men wouldn’t be able to say much to each other if they didn’t practice this in all its subtle forms. Men are wounded and hide their hurt in so many sophisticated ways. Most men use humor to cover it up. If you listen to men in social situations, the last thing they would talk about or are even interested in talking about is their feelings. If they do they are classified as being ladylike, homosexual, girly, wussy, a fag, or a pansy. Men like the conversation to be either light and fun or intellectual. It is here where they feel safe. If you watch a group of men together with so-called friends, you will see how they joke with each other. Some of it is just in fun, light and not too personal. But unfortunately men have been deeply conditioned to establish their dominance in a situation. This is woven into our genes and comes out in most men as a means to satisfy their need for power. All men don’t learn this, particularly if they have been raised without power-tripping parents who let kids choose and learn. Or some boys questioned at a young age and have sorted out the fact that they don’t like being controlled by others so they don’t try to control others. These men make good husbands and great dads because they put relationship before intellect. They feel as well as think but feeling rules not thinking. Therefore they do things to keep the closeness and relationship strong.
Coach bri