This is Killing Me Coach!
Well, you’ve been training with me now for about two weeks. I can see you’re struggling.
No! I’m fine! Thanks for asking.
You’re so quick to answer. Are you sure you’re okay?
Well, I don’t admit or show weakness, right coach?
Is that so? So why then do I see you struggle? I don’t care if you’re weak.
Yeah right! If I admit to this weakness it will come back on me.
How is that?
Well, no matter what, if I admit weakness, every coach in the world would punish me for it!
That’s fine, but do I punish you?
No, but you don’t see my weakness.
So why am I having this conservation with you then?
Because you think I’m doggin’ it! So you have come to give me shit. Right? That’s the coaching thing!!
No, I just want to find out how it’s going.
How come you’re starting with me?
Who says I am?
You haven’t pulled anyone else aside. Just me.
So why do you think I would do that?
I guess I complain a lot?
So when you’re complaining, how do you think it affects the training environment?
Some of the guys just won’t say what they feel, so I say it!
So what is it you want to say?
I’m tired, I’m sick of your voice and I’ve never done anything like this before in my life!
Great. So how do you feel?
I feel like this is fucking killing me, okay?
No, that’s what you think! What do you feel?
Sorry, okay I feel like shit! I hate all this stuff and the way we have to be pushed with your fucking awareness.
Good!
What do you mean GOOD?!
I know how you think and I know how you feel, that’s what I wanted to know!
So what the hell do I do now coach?
Well, how much time do you want to spend thinking about how shitty everything is and how much you hate this and that!
What do you mean? You see, you just ask all these questions. I need answers.
Oh, what answers?
Like, how am I doing out there?
How do you think you’re doing?
I don’t know. You’re the coach!
Do you care what I think about the car you drive?
No.
Do you care about what I think of your family?
No. Where is this going?
Why do you care what I think of your training?
Because you’re the coach!
Do you think most of the other players care about what I think of their performance at the camp?
Yes, but they’re closer to you. They know you!
What do they do that shows you they care about what I think of their training?
Well they do stuff over, when they don’t do it right.
And who points that out to them?
Well, they do it themselves!
So if they do it themselves, who’s evaluating their performance then?
They are I guess.
You got it! So what’s the value in evaluating your own performance?
Well they could cheat then!
Do they?
Doesn’t look like it. They are pretty focused. They sure lick my ass!
So what do you think about your own production of quality?
I work hard three quarters of the time.
Would you want an athlete on your team that works hard and cares about his performance three quarters of the time?
Depends on the athlete.
Can you tell me more about that?
Well, if he got the job done all the time when we needed too.
Okay so how many athletes at the next level think the way you do?
I don’t know.
Sure you do! The athletes here, who play at the next level, do they work three-quarters of the time?
No, I guess I see what you mean!
What meaning do you get from this conversation, that’s more important.
I could give more, go a little harder.
Great. What do you think would happen if you stopped complaining and worked a little harder?
Well I guess the guys would respond better to me.
How are they responding now?
They just laugh at me and I sometimes think they think I’m out to lunch or something.
What do they do that tells you that?
I know they laugh but as time goes on they laugh less and less.
So they’re seeing your “off ramp”.
What do you mean?
A lot of talented athletes don’t have a great work ethic!
So you think I’m talented?
What do you think?
It’s easy to be a big fish in a small pond.
Yes! I see that this is a whole different level I have never done this kind of stuff before. But “off ramp”?
Yes, a place we build to avoid self-evaluation to get out of being responsible for our potential.
Your company is about potential or something?
Forget the company, how do you avoid self-evaluation?
I think all the time coach!
Yes it’s not about just doing it. It about how you do it.
Coach you exhaust me!
Is that another off ramp?
Shit!!! Yes Shit!!
Yep! That’s why we produce shit!
Coachbri