Problems in Relationbship
When someone lets you down in a relationship for whatever reason (didn’t do what you asked them too, perhaps they proformed poorly at something, maybe that they mistreated you and are yelling or giving you the the silent treatment), this is the time when most human beings add to the problem by using external control psychology. How you behave when this happens to you is where heaven or hell is created. Creating hell and misery is to criticize , boss (which is tell them how to solve their problem) yelling or using so many destructive behaviours we are programmed to do.Each person has their own level of external control they use, depending on what has worked for them in the past. Can you identify yours and who you use them on the most? The next thing is to see the effect it has on them. Does it bring you closer together or is it building a chosen wall between you. The shock of the insecurity when someone uses it with us can lead to love and kindness if we are to look at how rattled we are and discover why. 
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